What Even is a Life Coach?
It’s easy to confuse the differences between coaches, counselors, consultants, and mentors. When I first got started, I was not even totally sure the differences. So for those of you that are like I was, I am going to help break it down for you more. My desire is that women see me as authentic and safe. Therefore, a great start to this is being open with my clients about what exactly it is that I help them with through my services.
Here is a short break down on a few of the different services that tend to blur together in the “helping people” field:
Coaches- Coaching is encouraging a person towards a goal in which they set for themselves. A coach comes alongside others to help them grow in these specific areas of their life.
Counselors- Counselors are healing/psychology experts that focus on a problem and fixing them. They focus on the negative aspects of their life and try to help their clients in a process of healing.
Consultants- Consultants are expert analyzers in a particular field. They give advice and recommendations to their clients.
Mentors- Mentors are typically somewhat older, wiser, and teachers to younger souls about life situations that they are seeking help in.
I think it will also be beneficial to explain what coaching ISN’T. Coaching is not therapy. It is not an outlet from addictive behaviors or treatment from past abusive situations. Coaches do not offer medical advice or legal counsel in any way. Coaching is not for people unwilling to make changes, pursue goals, or be intentional in the pursuit of their growth. Coaches do not tell their clients, “Here is what you need to do to improve this area in your life."
Now let’s get to talking about what it IS. First of all, coaching is positive. Life coaches work with people in a variety of different areas of life. Some of these include (but are not limited to): spiritual growth, healthy lifestyle management, creating healthy boundaries, relationships with others, growing in self-love, career development, life balance, decision-making, and working on both short-term and long-term goals. In all of these areas of life, coaches empower their clients to grow in positive ways toward the vision that they set for themselves.
Next, coaching is about moving forward. Rather than focusing on where we have been in the past, coaches help the client discover where they are in the present and where they want to go in the future. The next step is to begin creating actions to achieve those goals. Coaching is encouraging people toward something, and empowering them to use their strengths to get there.
Finally, coaching is asking not telling. The client sets the conversation agenda, and the coach helps them to get there using their clients' strengths, values, dreams, and beliefs. Coaches use questioning, awareness, and challenges in order to help draw the client to healthy conclusions. Coaches care about who you are, what your strengths, values, and passions are. As a coach, I want to empower you to become the best you that you were created to be!
I would love to chat with any women who are interested or still unsure about coaching. If you, or anyone you know, is wondering how my services could help them, please email me: firstname.lastname@example.org or checkout my website coachmillie.com
*Words & thoughts adapted from Christian Coaching by Gary R Collins.